In your own words, what does motherhood mean to you?
To me, it means loving unconditionally and putting my children’s wants and needs before mine.
If you get any “me time”, how do you wind down or spend it?
Exercise is my first “go to” choice for me time but I also love to read, do yard work, go to the beach and of course shop!
Has your style changed since becoming a mom?
Not at all. I’ve said for years that I’m going down swinging! Age is just a number and I will not let it define me! I try to stay current with fashion, hair and makeup but I always remember that I have 4 sets of impressionable eyes observing me. So I dress, speak and act respectfully. Having children at my age which are 15, 12, 10 and 6 keep me accountable for who I am and what I or we as a family represent. My only daughter who is 6 truly has no filter and definitely lets me know how I look!
How has motherhood changed you?
Definitely for the better. They come first always. So my selfish needs or wants are put on the back burner!
What would you say is the greatest challenge of being a working mom or stay at home mom?
I am fortunate that I work part time and that I absolutely love what I do. I work with an amazing group of people who understand the trials and tribulations of being a working mom. I do have a good work/home balance but it is still a challenge some days. My husband travels a lot and I try my best to support him. When he is out of town, I’m it! Some days I’m spot on and other days, well, I wish I could do a re-do! I hold my children accountable. They have chores and they do help each other. I also try my best to not bring home issues to work or work issues home.
How do you manage to keep all of the plates spinning? What helps you juggle motherhood, marriage/relationship, and career?
I’m fortunate that I do have an involved, hands on husband who supports me, my career and my need for down time. We do make our marriage a priority by having date nights and also time out with our wonderful friends for adult time!
What is your greatest joy of motherhood?
Watching them achieve a goal that they’ve worked so hard to attain and also when I’ve witnessed them find their niche! Nothing better than seeing your child happy. Another memorable joyous occasion was watching my 3 sons be baptized. Knowing that they’ve made the decision to follow Jesus is incredible.
What has been your greatest challenge in motherhood?
Patience! When they’re all coming at me with questions, concerns, wants, needs or demands I want to scream but I typically don’t! I take a deep breath and start with the most pressing request or the one making the most noise i.e. Crying!! Also just managing my time and the demands of home vs career.
What most surprised you about motherhood?
That you’re never done or caught up! There’s no such thing as clocking out when you become a mom. You’re on 24/7! Also, I always knew when I was younger that I wanted more than anything to be a mom but the depth of my love for my 4 children is overwhelming! Surprised me that I could love so much that it hurts.
Tell us a little about your child(ren) what each of them taught you about being a mother?
My 15 y.o, has taught me perseverance.
My 12 y.o. has taught me patience.
My 10 y.o. has taught me to just “let go” and to not be so serious.
My 6 y.o. has taught me to have fun and live each moment to the fullest.
All 4 together have taught me how to love unconditionally and that no matter what I’m going through, they will be there with open arms and a beautiful smile on their faces to put it all into perspective!
Do you have a family tradition that you are passing onto your child(ren)?
To make church a priority, have family dinners together at the table without the TV on and my favorite most cherished family tradition is to read the Christmas story on Christmas Day. Hearing the birth of Jesus and why we celebrate puts it all into perspective.
As a couple, how do you keep your relationship alive after having children?
Remembering who we are and why we fell in love. It’s also crucial to talk, listen intently, be patient, supportive, loving and respectful. You have to spend time with each other as a couple and family.
If you could give your child(ren) one piece of advice what would it be?
To always stay true to who you are and to never compromise your beliefs or morals.
Photography by Flashy Mama Photography in Florida