In 2008 we decided to stop using birth control and see what happened. Pretty early on in our relationship we started talking about having kids, we both agreed we wanted to have three. We both value family and wanted to start creating our own. We were not married yet but it seemed like the next thing to do. The following year was really hard because each month came a huge disappointment. We have friends who have struggled to get pregnant and they said we should go and see a fertility specialist.
We waited until after we got married in 2010 to see Dr. Smith at Rocky Mountain Fertility. We both got checked out and were told that it would be very unlikely we would get pregnant with out in vitro fertilization at a cost of $15,000 to $20,000. We were both crushed, our dreams of having a family were falling out of reach. Our insurance would not cover IVF but it would cover treatment of underlying causes. We decided to seek alternative treatments to see if we could fix our underlying issues. This proved to be stressful for both of us and nothing showed improvement. After about two of years of struggling through unsuccessful treatments we decided to give up on having children conventionally.
We both were not ready at that point emotionally or financially to start IVF. We didn’t want to get into debt to start a family so we started saving for our family. The decision was made to try to stop thinking about having children and focus more on us.
After another couple years we finally made the decision try one IVF attempt. We were both very optimistic that our attempt would work for us. Dr. Smith gave us our odds which were pretty good. My body didn’t respond well to the medication to grow my eggs so we had to increase the dosage. I was on the medication as long as possible, I was the last egg retrieval in my group. There was never any talk about not being able to do egg retrieval though so that wasn’t on my mind. The were only able to retrieve seven eggs which is on the low side.
For me the next part was the worst, it seemed like each day there was less and less fertilized eggs. I just kept thinking that by the time we got to the transfer there wouldn’t be any left to transfer. On the day of transfer we ended up having two good quality and one not so good quality fertilized eggs to transfer.
After waiting for years to have a positive pregnancy test we found out that two fertilized eggs took and I am pregnant with twins. We are truly so excited and over joyed by this news. I would tell any woman who needs to go through IVF to know your limits. This is a very emotional journey, don’t loose yourself in it and have a good support system. Remember that your husband is your partner through this, lean on him and share your feelings. My husband wanted to have children just as much as I did so he was dealing with similar emotions.
After wanting to get pregnant for so long actually being pregnant has been an awesome and scary experience. I love feeling my babies move around inside me. When there is a pain or different sensation especially in my first trimester I would be scared that something was wrong. I have had a great pregnancy overall though and all my worries have been for nothing. At 30 weeks I’m more excited then scared and just can’t wait to meet them. The most exciting part about being a mother for me will be seeing them learn and develop.
I first began to photograph families when I was 14; snapping pictures of my little babysitting charges. It was true love and after getting a minor in photography at SUNY Buffalo, I continued to make portraits of families living their lives while teaching in D.C. After moving to Denver and adopting my son, I opened BabyRose Photography, a business dedicated to reflecting the natural love and lifestyles of families.
Nothing is more beautiful to me than the love and connections found between family, biological, adopted, friendships, ALL kinds of families. I strive to make natural and organic portraits of people being themselves and connecting with others in the realest ways possible. Portraits are our heirlooms, they connect to us to our past and to our memories as they may begin to fade; I honor the responsibility of honestly capturing the truth of our hearts.
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